Saturday, March 28, 2020

Missing Monday


Missing Monday
Oh Sunday! for you we wait!
No worries, alarms, sleep till late...
It’s on Sunday that at home we laze,
Far away from the outside bustling craze.

The maids won’t come, it’s their day off!
Dishes, mopping, I’m the maid today I scoff!
Keep the cooking simple or let’s order in
We manage well, the kids and mister all pitch in!

Catching up on the weekly news, read and chat.
Bonding with the kids, fun, games and all that…
When the evening comes we feel all glum,
Life must move back to the beat of the drum.

That’s the way the story goes…. TILL one day,
Beware! It’s the virus scare- at home all MUST stay!
Yippee! No routine, no alarms and no meetings,
Short-lived euphoria and soon creep in irksome feelings.
I want to go out and play,
I can’t watch this news all day!
I can’t do so much work alone...
All fed up- each has a different groan!

Hope this Virus gets up and goes away…
Fervently for a vaccine we pray!
Is it going to be forever Sunday?
Please do return we miss you Monday.









Tuesday, March 24, 2020

Carrom Once More- Memories



“Munch that bite! There won’t be any ice-cream, any television ever: If you don’t finish this meal!!”

This is ME- three times a day, every day, day after day….– If not any life threatening pandemic, but just forcing healthy food at regular intervals down these wretched mouths- Will see the end of me, I’m sure!
Just a few days into the kids’ Summer Vacation – they’ve begun early this year- and I’m losing my sanity. Repeated errors while typing this too.
2 kids at home- awake for 12 or more hours at a stretch. They need to be fed, bathed, and fed again!
Entertained, occupied, kept out of mischief, kept indoors (the corona virus effect) and most important of all- healthy and happy! It’s a piece of cake! I tell myself every morning- rising by 6 a.m. sharp- earlier than school days!!! Just so I can get some time to myself before the monsters awaken.
11”o” clock at night and I’m still a dictionary- “Mamma, what does m-a-n-s-i-o-n mean?”
“It’s a place I want to run to…. So big I can hide from you, At least for a day or two! “
Don’t make up rhymes Ma, please, tell me the meaning….  Ha! Piece of cake!

As the afternoon laziness sets in- I remember I used to love summer afternoons, lying next to my mom, under the breeze of the fan, I can still smell her skin... My arms curled around her bare midriff from the sari she wore. HOW WONDERFUL those days of growing up were. SUDDENLY my midriff is attacked as she playfully jumps on it –“Let’s play rock a bye baby!”
“OUCH!!  You’re not a baby anymore!” I wince in agony…. But the girl won’t budge till we play rock a bye baby... 20 kilograms rocking up and down my legs- 50 reps. It’s a fabulous workout for the abs, but not post lunch!!
Another invention by this creature to entertain herself is “Catch Me If You Can! She runs around in circles around the dining table and I must catch her while she giggles and squeals at the top of her lungs! The neighbours downstairs came up one day worried whether some wild dogs had been let loose!!!. We apologized, stopped the game for a day all shamefaced and bashful but were back at it soon[H1] ! J

Today is puzzle solving day. Down come the old puzzle boxes neatly stacked up 3 years ago waiting for the younger one to play with them. As obvious, there are a few pieces missing.  “This is what you both did when I was not there, right? You just lost all the puzzle pieces. “Boy to girl- “No, we kept all the puzzles carefully for you.”
Girl to mom – “That’s why you prayed for me no, and I came”...  
Mom to girl- “I didn’t pray for you, I prayed for bhaiya”
“Then How Did I Come?”
I burst into helpless laughter –Isn’t this question coming too early? The kids however, ignore their mom rolling on the floor with laughter and continue to piece the puzzle together. They’re used to their mother suddenly bursting into laughter at some innocent remark they make: Into a song at the drop of a familiar word or phrase and definitely used to her breaking into a jig on hearing a song she loves. I am, losing my sanity as confessed before.

This summer has taken such a different turn. I had it all planned. 8.30a.m. - 9.30 a.m. swimming classes: Come back home for breakfast and shower, send the kids down to the club house for activity classes till 1. Gives me time to cook lunch and clean the house. After lunch we relax. At 5.30 p.m. tennis classes for an hour. Within that 1 hour I get to plan the packing and shopping for our annual summer holiday. Well sorted, or so I thought……
The classes stand cancelled, the holiday plan is definitely off and here we are together all summer, stuck at HOME!!

As the long summer days pan out I can’t stop getting nostalgic.  My mind wanders back to my childhood summer vacations which were all about lounging at home just like this. I recall the afternoons spent playing carrom board with cousins. My eldest bro and I, the youngest were a team invincible! The expert paired with me- butterfingers still learning the game. Indoor Ping Pong tournaments at home. With the dining table moved to the verandah and hardbound books placed at the center to form the net. Glasses of refreshing Rasna would be served to all at the end. “I LOVE YOU RASNA”. Don’t forget to sing as you gulp the last of the orange tangy drink. The taste still lingering on my tongue even as I write. No matter how strictly we were forbidden we’d still naughtily creep up to the refrigerator repeatedly to check if the homemade ice-cream had set. Fight to get that extra scoop!
Monopoly was the favourite pastime activity with the each game continuing for days- As kids we’d have dreams of one day owning those hotels at Bond Street, Regent Street and Piccadilly etc. How ambitious!
Amongst all the toys my most loved possession was a beautiful Barbie doll. I’d sew skirts, tops and dresses for her from fabric borrowed from Mom. The passion for fashion, was born then. Thank you Barbie, I miss you…
As kids we used to read books by the dozen: A competition would be held among friends as to who would read the maximum number of books before school reopened in June. St. Clare’s and Malory Towers by Enid Blyton sparked my imagination taking me to their English country homes and boarding schools full of learning, mischief and adventure. I guess that’s why we didn’t miss holidays to foreign locations unlike our kids today who plan among each other at school the next exotic destination where they would be headed for the summer, long before their parents plan.
Remember dancing to audio and video tapes of Madonna’s- La Isla Bonita and Stevie Wonder’s- Part Time Lover? “It’s My Life”- sang Bon Jovi and I from morning to night, giving us the rebel my parents struggled with!!

 Those walks down Marine Drive on beautiful summer evenings, those nights of sleepovers at friends’ and cousins’ with tall glasses of mango milkshake and naturals ice-cream, fun at Juhu beach and shopping at Bandra, Fashion street and much, much, more…

Memories of childhood so beautifully curated by parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and friends. I wish we could recreate that magic for our kids today.
Come on kids- “Carrom once more.” Let the Memories, bring back memories…!





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Wednesday, March 4, 2020

Hurrah! To MUM and MIL


“Beware the Ides of March”- “The Ides of March” are here.

It’s not mid-march, as in Shakespeare’s “Julius Caesar” but the eighth of March that we talk about here. Beware! It’s International Women’s Day again. 8th March is universally declared as International Women’s Day. A day to celebrate Women? Thank you!! The world celebrates a day while we women, celebrate our womanhood every day.
Women’s Empowerment”- is a phrase that catches on like a house on fire as 8th March draws near. “Women’s Empowerment” or “Empowered Women” or any permutation and combination of these 2 words stare at you from all sources of print and electronic media. Social media is also taken over by this storm of empowering women!
This year too is no different.  2 recent events made me really take notice of this wonderful phrase. First, an event being organised by a Community Ladies Organisation which plans to honour “Empowered Women” within the said community. Awards will be given out to few chosen women who’ve excelled in their chosen profession be it education, medicine, fashion, catering, sports, etc... Another, is a play I watched last night which had the theme, u guessed correctly- “Women’s Empowerment”. It named great women like Mother Teresa, Madame Curie, Hellen Keller, Lata Mangeshkar, Rani Laxmibai and many more as the great “Empowered Women” of our Century.

A question begins to arise in my curious head- What do we mean by women’s empowerment? When women were given the right to vote- that empowered women. Equal opportunities to education and welfare- that empowers women.  However, exactly what is an “Empowered Woman”? Is she, only someone who has a flourishing career or a business? Am I, a homemaker, a mother of two not empowered? I, think I am because I made a choice to give up my career to raise my kids on my own- with little family and little of paid help! So did my Mom- who didn’t have as much help as I do today… So do millions of other Indian women. Educated, financially independent, modern women make the choice to give up careers and take care of their homes and family. They devote their time and energy into raising kids, managing homes and keeping their families stable. 
This article is an ode to these women without whom the men and women who go out and get awards would not be able to.

So, do I write this because I want an award? Of course! Who doesn’t like awards?  But, honestly– I write this to just appreciate these invaluable housewives who form the backbone of our society.

The homemaker wife is around in the morning when the husband needs his breakfast quickly before he rushes out- to attend his important meeting/catch the flight or make that killer deal. Mom is around when the kids come back tired from school and find a clean and happy home waiting for them as they fling their bags on the floor and sprawl in front of the tv -before rushing out for evening tuitions. The homemaker mother- in- law is there when her daughter- in- law needs to put in that extra hour at work and calls requesting mummyji to please pick up Sonu from the school bus stop and bring him home. It is these housewives who support and help us achieve our goals and ambitions. These unsung heroes are indeed empowered, as they provide a generation of doctors, engineers, sports stars and business leaders etc. to the world.

This is an ode to my Mom, the most empowered woman I knew. In spite of her hard earned Master’s Degree in Botany, she chose to dedicate her life to raising her family. Her sacrifices were unnoticed... Her labours not counted… her hours unpaid. She helped me become what I am today. She took care of every need and desire of mine while I studied, chose a profession, pursued different social interests and married the man of my dreams.
It’s also an ode to my mother- in- law, who was there supporting me in my fight against infertility. She took care of our home and even weary clients at the store while I was advised rest and care- which she provided.  To these two women I’d like to say “Thank You”. You are my beacons of strength and inspiration.

Let’s this Women’s Day say thank you to all these Empowered Housewives. Our Mums and Mums –In -Law- each, with her own strength and unique quality of EMPOWERMENT. If not awards we can give them a heartfelt applause! Hurrah! To MUM and MIL- In one breath!

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